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A clinical psychologist and member of South Africa's Truth and Reconciliation Commission describes how she met in a maximum security prision with Eugene de Kock, "Dr. Death," the notorious commander of apartheid death squads. Dear friends who are "exploring forgiveness " through this volume published by the University of Wisconsin Press, I am greeting you from South Africa, this new South Africa, this free, democratic South Africa.

Forgiveness is one of the Jillian Edelstein. Again, the South African experience has much to teach our own society about the hard work of truthtelling in forgiveness.

There, the importance of the larger cultural participation in the task of telling and listening to the truth about In apartheid-torn South Africa, human atrocity in the form of civil rights abuses had created an inferno of violence that was only quenched by the loving and forgiving ethos of leaders such as Nelson Mandela and Desmond Tutu.

The Book of Forgiving is both a touchstone and a tool, offering Tutu's wise advice and showing the way to experience forgiveness. Ultimately, forgiving is the only means we have to heal ourselves and our aching world.

Tutu, Rodney L. Petersen, Miroslav Volf, Stanley S. Harakas, Raymond G. Helmick, SJ, Joseph V. Montville, Douglas M. Johnston, Donna Hicks, Donald W. Shriver, Jr. Worthington, Jr. What might reconciliation and forgiveness mean in relation to various forms of personal, structural, and historical violence across the African continent?

This volume of essays seeks to engage these complex, and contested, ethical issues from three different disciplinary perspectives — Biblical Studies, Systematic Theology and Practical Theology. Each of the authors reflects on aspects of reconciliation, forgiveness and violence from within their respective African contexts. They do so by employing the tools and resources of their respective disciplines.

The end result is a rich and textured set of interdisciplinary theological insights that will help the reader to navigate these issues with a greater measure of understanding and a broader perspective than what a single approach might offer.

What is particularly encouraging is that the chapters represent research from established scholars in their fields, recent PhD graduates, and current PhD students. Although history is replete with tales of revenge, Christian forgiveness provides an alternate response. In this volume, Pentecostal scholars from various disciplines offer their vision for forgiveness, reconciliation, and restoration. The essayists offer long-overdue Pentecostal perspectives through analysis of contemporary theological issues, personal testimony, and prophetic possibilities for restoration of individual relationships and communities.

Though Pentecostals remain committed to Spirit-empowered witness as recorded in Luke-Acts, these scholars embrace a larger Lukan vision of Spirit-initiated inclusivity marked by reconciliation. The consistent refrain calls for forgiveness as an expression of God's love that does not demand justice but rather seeks to promote peace by bringing healing and reconciliation in relationships between people united by one Spirit. Since the South African Truth and Reconciliation Commission TRC has had a profound impact on international efforts to deal with the aftermath of mass violence and societal conflict, this is an appropriate time for scholars to debate and reflect on the work of the TRC and the wide-ranging scholarship it has inspired across disciplines.

With a foreword by Harvard Law Professor Martha Minow, Memory, Narrative, and Forgiveness: Perspectives on the Unfinished Journeys of the Past offers readers a front-row seat where a team of scholars draw on both theoretical analysis and case studies from around the world to explore the themes of memory, narrative, forgiveness and apology, and how these themes often interact in either mutually supportive or unsettling ways.

The book is a vibrant discussion by scholars in philosophy, psychology, psychoanalytic theory, history, literary theory, and Holocaust studies. The authors explore the complex, interconnected issues of trauma and narrative testimonial and literary narrative and theatre as narrative , mourning and the potential of forgiveness to heal the enduring effects of mass trauma, and transgenerational trauma-memory as a basis for dialogue and reconciliation in divided societies.

The authors go well beyond the South African TRC and address a wide range of historical events to explore the possibilities and the challenges that lie on the path of reconciliation and forgiveness between victims, perpetrators, and bystanders in societies with a history of violent conflict and unspeakable injustice.

The book provides readers with a cohesive, theoretically well-grounded analysis of the impact of traumatic memories in the personal and communal lives of survivors of trauma. It explores how narrative may be creatively applied in processes of healing trauma, and how public testimony can often restore the moral balance of societies ravaged by trauma.

The book deepens understanding of the ways in which lessons from the TRC might be developed and both usefully and cautiously applied in other post-conflict situations. Forgiveness and Revenge is a powerful exploration of our attitudes to serious wrongdoings and a careful examination of the values that underlie our thinking about revenge and forgiveness.

Nothing else! I sat up straight, aware of my glowing cheeks. I leant against the wall and let the air out of my lungs slowly. Goddamn it. I knew this would be hard, but bloody hell. My father appeared again in the doorway, pacing up and down with frustration I knew was fueled by fatherly love. This may just as easily be the start of something else entirely! I sat alone in the silence my father left behind him and watched the dust settle.

This trip will surely mark an end to a certain chapter of my life. The seatbelt lights have been switched off, and I use the chance to unbuckle. Unbeknownst to them, a part of my survival strategy was to project fearlessness.

However, the most effective way to hide my brokenness turned out to be overachievement. As a result, I aced everything, including the college education I completed in the States in English, my second language. Being insanely busy had the added advantage of leaving me with no time to dwell on the past.

I turn on the in-flight entertainment system and browse through the TV programs. One of them is about a police unit that specializes in sex crimes that are, without exception, committed by armed and dangerous lunatics. Uninterested, I continue browsing. When I was sixteen, my idea of sexual assault was of something that took place in dark alleys and was carried out by knife-wielding psychopaths.

When it came crumbling down in my head later, and I realized that I had indeed been raped, my perpetrator was already on the other side of the planet, leaving me with the only option of bottling up my pain. It came at a cost. At the age of twenty-five, after nine years of keeping up appearances and suffering in silence, I hit rock bottom. This led me to doubt everything: my career choices, my romantic choices, my self-worth. I was at war with the world, never really sure who the enemy was.

Diaries turned into poetry that transformed into plays, and, before long, I was mak ing a name for myself as a playwright. It was nothing short of liberating to make up characters that were free to speak all the words that I myself choked on.

Simply put, it was perfect. And the woman and man that wrote it ought to be garlanded with medals. Sandi Toksvig Written with sensitivity, courage and compassion, this book is a shared, outer and inner journey of recovery. In this intimate account of that journey, the story draws attention to one of the most overlooked perspectives regarding the act and meaning of rape: the shame of rape, harboured by the victim, belongs in fact to the perpetrator.

Without any leanings toward self-indulgence, it is a deeply honest exploration of the dynamics of forgiveness and personal transformation. I felt as if I was with them and their loved ones on their journey. I will remember it and recommend it for a long time to come. Christina Patterson, The Sunday Times Both Elva and Stranger have been brave enough to publicly expose their separate vulnerabilities, in order to contribute to an important debate about sexual violence. The resulting book, South of Forgiveness, is one the reader will barely be able to wrench themselves from.

Sunday Business Post Dublin Very brave. Catholic Herald Apr 20, Maggie Gordon rated it liked it Shelves: non-fiction. Picked this one up for work.

Intriguing narrative, but one that happens to be very individual. On the other hand, nice to see a non-carceral dialogue about the aftermath of rape. May 17, Trisha Yourkvitch rated it it was amazing. An amazing book that shows the power of forgiving, growing, and maturing. It has very poignant examples of how to have a conversation that leads to understanding and growth. It touches on the patriarchy, entitlement, rape culture, forgiveness both of yourself and others.

It's an amazing read that I highly recommend. Difficult read dealing with the process of a perpetrator and a survivor of rape, which culminates in a conciliatory meet up in one of the world's rape capitals, Cape Town. Confronting but intriguing read. I commend the authors? That should be the main takeaway. But it's difficult to write a review of this. The subject matter is fascinating and intensely moving, but the writing was terrible. I'm not even sure who wrote it.

The cover says Thordis Elva and Tom Stranger his name smaller than hers. But an author's note at the back refers to them as "Thordis and Tom" several times, which makes me think some I commend the authors? But an author's note at the back refers to them as "Thordis and Tom" several times, which makes me think someone else stuck it together from their diaries and correspondence.

It matters because Elva is apparently a respected playwright. I was surprised to learn this, because until that point I'd forgiven her writing because I thought she had reluctantly stumbled upon the necessity to write a book and had thus done an amateur job of it. This will probably be her most read work. If it's her prose, it reflects quite poorly on her. Maybe because it's in English and not Icelandic—but whatever the reason, I'd recommend she's clearer on who wrote this. It reads like a teenage girl's diary.

Butterflies in stomachs and throats dry as deserts and so on. Nobody eats or drinks, they always chomp and slurp back. Hearts are leaping into throats at every opportunity always, as if it makes every part of the reading experience thrilling rather than exhausting and distracting—so that by the time the most compelling material of the book arrives, I was struggling to read.

At one point Tom says Thordis "always has the best metaphors. I don't care if the dialogue is a precise record of what the pair spoke about, but it so much wasn't that it pulled me out of the reading experience also.

Both of them spout weird inorganic phrases that I doubt they said off the cuff to one another. It all sounded pretty unnatural to me. Almost like, if it were a film, Elva would look directly into the camera and go into a mini speech about the effects of patriarchy, citations needed. My brother and I had this joke about the film "Frantic. They're on holiday I believe so he goes to the check-in desk and asks if they've seen his wife. I don't think they have, so then he goes and talks to the cops.

The joke Croy and I had was that it was less a thriller and more an infotainment about what to do if your wife went missing on holiday. We kept expecting lists of key facts in bullet point form to pop up on the screen, like: "Remember: Stay calm. First, go to the check-in desk and ask if they have seen anything.

Be careful to ask specific questions! It is best to report the incident to the local authorities as soon as possible. And I should stress, it's because the content is so important that I'm so annoyed by how much the style threw me off. It seems most people—perhaps quite rightly—if they did have these issues with the book have chosen to overlook them for the sake of how original and moving it is, and it is certainly that.

I will sleep well having said my piece on it and knowing that I am not an influential book reviewer. Mar 09, Mary rated it it was amazing Shelves: I took some time after finishing this one to think on what I want to write in the review or if I want to review it at all. It's a tough one to truly make up my mind about. First though I'd like to thank the authors for their honesty and bravery, it's inspiring in a most unassuming and outstanding way.

Being a psychologist by education I found this book fascinating. The fact that we can see both points of view, read about the true experience of both sides. What I admire even more is that image of I took some time after finishing this one to think on what I want to write in the review or if I want to review it at all. What I admire even more is that image of the two main characters goes so far beyond the simple labels of 'victim' and the 'perpetrator'. We get two human beings emerge from those pages and it left me awed.

In that this book is a masterpiece, our system does so much to dehumanise the victims of all forms of violence but especially sexual. It also dehumanises the perpetrators. Painting them as monsters, does not help potential victims guard against violence and it most definitely does not help those people understand their own actions, change and make amends. Here we can read about two humans and for that this book gets a five star rating from me! I found myself nodding my head at many statements in this book, the preconceptions about rape, it's victim, it's perpetrator, ways to deal with it's consequences and ways in which those may vary.

I agree wholeheartedly with what Ms. Elva wrote about the flaws with our society, built often on patriarchy, entitlement and desire for power. The message this book also gets across beautifully is that violence does never only concern two people - it always drags everybody in those peoples lives in as well.

It also often stretches far into the victim's life, changing their choices, actions and consequences of those. Victims of rape are so often misunderstood by their families and by the system. This book shows that the appropriate way to deal with trauma and heal from it is the way the person to whom it happened to chooses.

All the above are the reasons I think that this is a brilliant and a very important book that everybody should read. Having that said this book does have flaws, is a bit too melodramatic at times no offence to the authors intended , the christian beliefs are not my own they are not ostentatious, and not the main theme but they're still there.

I wouldn't say that this is my favourite book, not my a long shot, but I consider it an extremely important book, so bravely and honestly written that it's worth recommending to everybody and should be read as much as possible. Dec 04, Kylie Purdie rated it it was amazing Shelves: reads , jar-reads.

If this was a fictional account of the meeting of two people to work through one raping the other, it would never be believed.

The journey that Thordis and Tom take is exceptional in so many ways and incredibly powerful. I am a true believer that until we fully discuss issues such as rape, from both sides, the vicitm and the perpetrator, we have no hope of changing the how or why it happens.

We cannot just dismiss those who commit these crimes are sick arseholes who are unworthy of our time. This If this was a fictional account of the meeting of two people to work through one raping the other, it would never be believed. This book does a huge amount towards opening up the door to allow full and frank discussion to take place. I've heard that some people in reading this book or hearing Elva and Stranger talk have felt Stranger had no place on stage, next to Elva, being part of this story.

But he is a part of this story and I don't think it can be told without him. Thoridis' chapters in this book are longer and more detailed. Tom's short and turned inwards to his feelings and emotions. The interviews I have heard with the two, Thordis is by far the more vocal and this for me is very fitting. While Tom is part of the story, it's important that he is more passive, listens, doesn't try to explain or justify what happened.

He raped Thordis. Nothing can ever change or undo that act. He owns it. He says it. He accepts that sorry is not enough and forgiveness is something Thordis can only give of her own free will.

He realises how important that forgiveness is for Thordis and for himself. And while he searches for the why, he understands in the end the why doesn't actually matter that much.

There were so many parts of this book that I wanted to underline, highlight. So many I went back and re-read, quietly to myself. This is a powerful book and one I would encourage everyone to read. It's hard, but it teaches so much. I guess I don't understand or agree with everything, but it's such an interesting read. Very courageous.

Jun 13, Janice Cafarelli rated it liked it.